I CHOOSE ME! BECOMING YOUR OWN BEST ADVOCATE IN THE YEARS AFTER 60 Being the product of an abusive father, I grew up a people pleaser. By constantly trying to please him, I learned to survive. In doing so, for years I kept lying to my inner self. We all know we should never lie to ourselves, but not only do we frequently do so, we also look for as much evidence to confirm the lies we tell. Self-Deception Self-deception has a lot to do with not having the courage to live our own life. We often live the life others expect of us, especially when it comes to work. For instance, I always felt a bond of purposefulness when working toward common goals and solving problems with others in...

A wonderful on-line site, Retirement & Good Living, provides amazing topics and tools for anyone of any age contemplating retirement. A blog that they asked me to write about the "Emotional Costs of Retirement". was just published. I am honored to share it with you.   Needless to say how you deal with closing that door from your work life actually defines you in a different way. Every retirement book I had ever read was right . . . During our journey through life work shores up our identity, anchors our private and social life, defining us to the world. All those years of our lives revolve around structure. Structure we create or structure imposed because of job responsibilities and we had a place to go, people that...

I was reading an article written by Dr. Travis Bradberry entitled, "Ten Harmless Mind Tricks That Make People Like You." It is really insightful and I have been fascinated with the outcome as I have tried a few. One in particular I thought I would share. Pay close attention to what is says. The result as you observe this is just amazing. Try it yourself and see what happens: People’s feet reveal their interest. When talking to someone, pay attention to their feet. If their feet are aimed at you, they’re interested and listening to what you’re saying, but if their feet point away from you, they’re most likely disinterested and mentally checked out....